Is a crazy MYTH in the way of your Amazing Life?

We’re probably all guilty of believing something that works against us living the best life possible yet… the myth hangs around in our psyche, showing up when we are most vulnerable!  Here’s a myth that I’m excited to DE-BUNK because it’s been lurking around my life for as long as I can remember: “My LIFE will be AMAZING as soon as I accomplish _______” (fill in the blank).

You would think I would not EVER fall for this myth again, but noooo……. as soon as I have a rough day; a cancelled event; or a rejected business proposal – here it comes (again) trying to convince me that my entire life will be just FABULOUS as soon as I land the NEXT account or post the next blog or blah, blah, blah.

Okay, so now for the truth:  my life is AMAZING every time I pause and reflect on the goodness of God.  Seriously.  My life is amazing when I linger in the place and space of gratitude for food, shelter, family & friends who love me; meaningful work and fruitful ministry and…. I could go on and on listing the myriad ways that I am blessed.

If by any chance, I’m not the only one who struggles with the recurring madness of this myth, and if per chance you wrestle with it too, please help yourself to reading about two other myths that conspire to keep you from enjoying your amazing life by CLICKING HERE for a completely free download (no email required).

Also, please share your thoughts (& myths) with me!  Wishing you the very best for a life that is myth-free and truly amazing!

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Your AMAZING Life 2017 ~ A Checklist

I wanted to start this year off by giving a Gift to those I know; those who are clients; and those who, like me, simply want to get more practical info on ‘how to’ have an AMAZING Life!  With that goal in mind I created “Your AMAZING Life 2017 ~ A Checklist.”

I hope you’ll opt-in and immediately enjoy the opportunity to think about your life across three dimensions: Your beliefs, your abilities and your dreams!  I’m praying that you’ll be both honest and kind as you think about just how unique you are.

If this resource makes you re-think your limitations then you are invited to join me for upcoming resources, tips and support!  An AMAZING Life is possible.  Give yourself permission to redesign your life & make it… amazing.

           CLICK HERE to get your FREE Checklist!

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3 Secrets to Success for a Happy New NOW!

If you’ve ever wondered why success seems so “elusive” and so “way up there in the future” let me assure you that success is MUCH closer than you’d imagine! After helping several of my Life Coaching clients attain major personal goals in 2016 (and after reaching quite a few of my own) I discovered recurrent themes showing up over and over and over.  Here’s what I found to be three secrets to success…

#1    DO SOMETHING EVERYDAY TOWARD YOUR GOALS  – success is tied to consistency.  Everyday you must make a conscious decision to take an intentional and strategic action that advances you toward your goal!  It might be as simple as making your bed before you leave home so that you can return to a peaceful space at the end of the day or it might be calling a busy CEO until you connect with one who will agree to mentor you. Do something every single day and watch the efforts pay off.

#2   IMAGINE YOURSELF ALREADY SUCCESSFUL – use your imagination to enact what your success will look like once it manifests.  See yourself giving the successful speech at the major conference; envision yourself unlocking the door of your new office suite; imagine yourself presenting the scholarship check to a deserving youth.  Prepare for success by becoming comfortable with it in your mind.

#3   PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS – respect what you say you want by attending to the details related to getting it.  When you meet someone new who is a relevant contact, take a few minutes within the next day or so to drop that person a thank you note.  Train your mind to listen attentively when others are speaking and to bring up details important to them when it’s time to do business with each other.  They’ll be impressed that you heard what they said. Go the extra mile when communicating by paying attention to details such as a person’s title, interests or preferred method of contact.  Details can differentiate you from others and positively cause you to be remembered.

Yes, it is a new year but more importantly… it’s a New NOW.  Enjoy each moment!

~ Dr. Sheryl L.W. Barnes   /  “Your Life…only Amazing!”



It’s good to see another Harvest!

november I am genuinely excited to welcome the month of November.  Even though 2016 seemed as if it zoomed by, the truth is, its been a great year of learning, meeting new people and navigating several new challenges.  But… what I’m most excited about is “gathering in the harvest” from seeds sown earlier in the year and the month of November makes me think of harvest.

What kind of harvest am I expecting? Since harvest always reflect seeds sown, the question is: what have I been sowing?  This year I made up my mind to be more intentional with making efforts to stretch socially and to go outside my comfort zone in exploring business opportunities. I sowed seeds of networking and following up after meeting really interesting people.  Some reciprocated but many did not. I’m grateful for the new relationships that have blossomed from those who did.  Continue reading

Could Changing Your Life REALLY Be that Simple?

hotair balloonWhile serving on a panel of women leaders recently it came time for the moderator to open up the panel discussion to questions from the audience. A young woman asked me specifically “how” does someone get to the place where they really believe that they will succeed. I’m paraphrasing her question but her point was “it’s great that you all are successful, confident women who have achieved much, but HOW did you change your mindset and remain consistent over time?” It was one of the last questions asked and I am SO grateful she addressed it to me! What I told her was that ‘how’ I have been able to persevere in spite of setbacks, disappointments, fear, ‘other people’s opinions of me & negative assumptions about my abilities’ is simple… I have made it a daily PRACTICE to do the following things:
(1) I go to Chapel everyday. Chapel happens to be a chair in my living room where I sit down and journal what I’m grateful for from the last 24 hours of my life.
(2) Also, while in Chapel, I spend time in prayer and Bible study. Key word here is “study.” I’ll spend days or weeks on a single verse to try to understand what it means for MY life!  I spend time in conversation with God.  I ask for wisdom; I ask for forgiveness and strength and I listen to His counsel.
(3) I SPEAK over my life… every… single… day! I declare and decree that I am healed; that my family members are blessed; that my corporation, ministry and marriage are favored.  I say ‘grace’ over my clients: “Lord, thank you for the clients I am about to receive!” I open my mouth and speak success over my professional and personal life.

Has it changed my life? Oh Lord YES!!! I feel grateful on a consistent basis and I feel hopeful that I am living with, on and in purpose. I find it easier to forgive others and MYSELF; easier to extend grace to others (and myself).  I am much more mindful of the gift of each day.  Success is not way up ahead… it’s in small efforts made each day.

Is it really that SIMPLE to change your life and your outlook? Yes. Begin by respecting the power of consistency. Every day say kind things about yourself to yourself. Every day pause to give thanks. Every day read and think about a spiritual truth. It IS that simple and YOU can do it.

Blessings!  ~ Dr. Sheryl L.W. Barnes

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5 Reasons to Attend a Royal VISION BOARD Retreat!

Royal VISION BOARD Retreat with meAs an experienced Life Coach, from time to time I offer what is titled “A Royal VISION Board Retreat.” Those who attend are encouraged to tap into the unique desires placed in their heart by God. Here are 5 reasons to seriously consider making an investment in honoring your God-given dreams by attending A Royal VISION BOARD Retreat with me!

 #1 You need to SEE what you’re pursuing! It is crazy, unproductive and a serious waste of time for you to expect to hit a goal you refuse to set. I’ve actually met people who set more goals related to what their friends and family want than what they themselves desire! You are not a robot or a drone. Your life is way too precious to not pursue your passion.

#2 Your thoughts influence your life! Research has shown that we move in the direction of our dominant thoughts. You’ve heard it said, “you are what you think you are,” and “as a man thinketh in his heart so is he.” Creating a VISION Board allows you to help focus your thinking in positive ways.

#3 When your heart speaks you need to transcribe! The deliberate act of listening to what’s in your heart and then ‘honoring’ what you hear is an act of courage, power and spiritual authority. There are all types of influences around you: cultural, historical, political, family and peers. The most important influence, however, ought to be what’s in your heart because it was placed there by God.

#4 Let what moves you, move you! When you select images, verses, key words, phrases, or photos that have personal meaning for you, you’ll find that every time you look at your VISION Board you’ll feel energized! Expect to be inspired and motivated.

#5 You may add to it or let it be! Because your Royal VISION BOARD is created by you, you can add to it or modify it any time you want. You can also leave it exactly as you created it as a reminder of what you once hoped for and achieved!

~ Dr. Sheryl L.W. Barnes, Life Coach – Author – Speaker

Sterling-Xavier Consulting Group

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Don’t Let Others DUMP Garbage in Your Mind!

SOUL Secret #5   Stop All Negative Dumping into Your Mind!

illegal dumpingWhen family members, friends, co-workers or even your social media buddies insist on dumping all manner of depressing, bigoted, gossipy or mean-spirited garbage into your mind – don’t allow it! By far one of your greatest assets is your mind and it must be guarded with vigilance. Sure, everyone IS entitled to their opinion but that doesn’t mean they should have unlimited dumping rights in your mind.

When you find yourself in person-to-person conversations that are turning ugly, do all that you can to try to redirect the conversation. If that fails, flat-out announce that you aren’t comfortable talking about “So & So” but you will definitely keep him or her lifted up in prayer. Another tactic is to flee: get off the phone; excuse yourself to chat with someone else at the party; go to the bathroom; refresh your beverage – just find a way to get away.

Prepare yourself because others are usually offended when you no longer want to join them in bashing others or engaging in vitriolic diatribes, pity parties and complaint sessions. Too bad. Stop letting others pour their toxic waste materials into your mental garden if you expect to grow positive & empowering thoughts.

~ Dr. Sheryl L.W. Barnes, Life Coach – Author – Speaker

Sterling-Xavier Consulting Group

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