No, Seriously – It’s Time to BOSS Your LIFE!


Let’s be honest – some phrases inspire us to greatness!¬† If you’re like me even hashtags can energize your day: #VibeUp¬† #LevelUp and #goaldigger always make me want to hit the target goals I set each day!¬† And, truth be told, I have a particular affinity for just about anything with “BOSS” in it: #bossmoves #bosslady #bossbabes and, well you get the picture.

byl-03¬†What if, all cliches aside, you really DO NEED to “BOSS Your LIFE” – what does that entail and do you have the resources available at your fingertips to make it happen?

You do now.¬† I curated the “BOSS Your LIFE!” Guidebook¬†using a proven selection of my most effective tools, assessments, worksheets and forms to help you clarify, organize and prioritize your thoughts and ideas.¬† You are worth the time it takes to write out your personal vision, mission and life goals!¬† It is equally important to know what core values are shaping your decisions.¬† In the Guidebook you’ll get templates to help you inventory your gifts, skills and special abilities – and there’s even a space for your to note what your are passionate about!

Face it – you can’t BOSS a life you haven’t bothered to reflect on.¬† As you document important facets of your dreams and aspirations, you’ll find it much easier to set goals and convert those goals into strategies and tactics upon which you can take ACTION.

1-bylguideThis powerful tool is a digital download and is available upon purchase Рfor only $21.  Find out why I use the TO DO form daily and why my clients insist that tracking their ACCOMPLISHMENTS has given them the much needed boost of encouragement to keep on accomplishing more.

Grab your copy today and make “bossing” your life more than a hashtag; make it a reality!¬† CLICK HERE TO PURCHASE!

~ Dr. Sheryl L.W. Barnes, Life Coach


Need to #LevelUp?


It’s SO easy to be smitten by a hashtag like #LevelUp – right?¬† I mean seriously – who DOESN’T want to ‘up’ their game & improve their stats? Who doesn’t want to be perceived as the next, or the newest, fierce, fresh, phenomenon?¬†¬†

Whatever your field is, the GOOD news is that “leveling up” is basically the same concept that is resting on the same principles: you must be consistent – persistent – and excellent.¬† Piece of cake… that is until you get tired… or you begin to doubt if you can “slay” ANOTHER day.¬† Are you ready for more GOOD news?¬† Keep reading!

If you need to #LevelUp start by accepting & RESPECTING the following, timeless, proven truths:

  1. QUIET TIME IS CRITICAL: That’s right my friend. Find a way to unplug and sit with your own thoughts without the noise of the world polluting YOUR genius.
  2. REST IS CRITICAL:  Your BODY, MIND & SPIRIT need to re-boot even more than your tech devices.  Shut it all down and get some sleep!
  3. RELATIONSHIPS ARE CRITICAL:¬† Not the superficial kind either; I’m talking about spending quality time with quality people.¬† Who “really” gets you? If it’s your grandma, chill with her! If it’s your first cousin on your dad’s side… go hang out.

Maybe you were hoping for some type of DEEP and MYSTICAL elixir in order for you to #LevelUp.¬† I don’t know about deep or mystical but I do know about “tried & true” and you will absolutely experience greater focus and enhanced productivity when you r lifestyle is infused with the three basics listed above.

You only have ONE YOU.  #LevelUp for real by taking better care of yourself!

– Dr. Sheryl L.W. Barnes, Master Life Coach


Your AMAZING Life! ~ A Checklist

Your AMAZING Life Checklist

If you’re like most of us, every now and then you just need to ‘scan’ and assess how things are going across different dimensions of your life.¬† Sure, you can do a check-in at the beginning of the year or… as the year winds down – but, you can also level up and examine your life at any time!¬† ¬†With that goal in mind I created a FREE¬†Your AMAZING Life¬† ~ A Checklist.¬†



  1. Because your life is way too important, valuable, unique and wonderful to leave to randomness. You have the responsibility (& power) to transform it from what it is now to how you know it can be.
  2. We forget how a change in one area of life can enhance all the other areas! Doing a self-assessment helps us to see what we want to keep in our lives and what we might want to change, improve or enhance!
  3. Having a tool such as this allows you to take your sweet time and really think about your life: your beliefs, abilities and dreams¬†but at your convenience. You don’t have to rush through to get a “score’ – the results are indications of ‘where’ you are and a guide to ‘where’ you can decide to go!

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It’s Time… Join us for a Royal VISION BOARD Event!

Your DESTINY is far too important to leave to chance or other people’s opinions!¬† When you take time to create a ROYAL VISION BOARD you are allowing your heart to ‘speak’ thru the images and phrases you select.¬† And… your HEART MUST SPEAK because it is where your deepest passions, purpose and dreams reside.¬† Your heart is where your VISION is awaiting nurturing and activation and YOU are the ONLY one who has the spiritual authority to bring it to life.¬† God trusts you with divine purpose.

If you are able to join us on Saturday, January 20, 2018 11:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m.¬†(@ The Urban Collective in New Haven, CT) please come prepared to be encouraged, empowered & inspired!¬† You’ll enjoy at atmosphere of faith, fellowship & fearlessness.¬† CLICK HERE to REGISTER thru Evenbrite – tickets are only $48 and include the total experience with all materials & refreshments!¬† Start 2018 with clarity and determination to live out your VISION!

~ Dr. Sheryl L.W. Barnes, CEO & Life Coach

5 Ways to ACTIVATE your VISION!!!

If you’ve had the powerful experience of creating a personal Vision Board then you already know the feeling of exhilaration of honoring what’s in your heart and on your Collage1mind. ¬†I get it – it’s joyful! Each year I host “Royal VISION BOARD Retreats” to facilitate this truly transformational experience for my clients. But here’s the catch: unless you use your Vision Board as the first step in realizing your dreams, goals and aspirations all you will have to show for your efforts will be… a nice collage.

But what if you’ve missed the best part? ¬†What if you’ve not allowed your Vision Board creation to be the kick-off point for the creation of a serious action plan?

Here are 5 Ways to “ACTIVATE” your VISION!!!¬†

  1. SCAN: Scan your Vision Board to identify recurring ideas or themes.  Do you see travel repeated throughout, or images of healthy foods; romance; adventure; or entrepreneurship?  Write down repeating ideas.
  2. SELECT: Select an idea or theme that is important to you, to convert into an action plan.  It is easier to set goals for ONE idea than to and accomplish major success in multiple areas of your life at the same time.
  3. CONVERT: ¬†Once you’ve selected something from your Vision Board to work on convert it into an action planning format that is S,M.A.R.T. = Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-bound. ¬†State exactly what you want (specific); define how you will measure its attainment; describe in what ways your goal is actually something you can achieve (ex.: workout 3 times a week for 30 minutes); include in your written plan how your goal is realistic for your time, energy and other life obligations; and finally, attach a time by which you’ll achieve it.
  4. COMMIT: ¬†If you’re serious about make your Vision Board come to life – commit by making yourself accountable to someone. ¬†Commit the process to a trusted ‘other’ who will check in on you and your progress.
  5. CELEBRATE:  When you reach your goal, and you will Рallow time to reflect on what you learned along the way and be sure to celebrate in a special and personally-meaningful way!

If you’d like to try one-on-one Success Coaching that produces results, please contact me for the coaching support your VISION demands! ¬†Life is not a rehearsal and your dreams matter; remember it’s your life… only AMAZING! ¬†CONTACT ME!


Is a crazy MYTH in the way of your Amazing Life?

We’re probably all guilty of believing something that works against us living the best life possible yet… the myth hangs around in our psyche, showing up when we are most vulnerable!¬† Here’s a myth that I’m excited to DE-BUNK because it’s been lurking around my life for as long as I can remember: “My LIFE will be AMAZING as soon as I accomplish _______” (fill in the blank).

You would think I would not EVER fall for this myth again, but noooo……. as soon as I have a rough day; a cancelled event; or a rejected business proposal – here it comes (again)¬†trying to convince me that my entire life will be just FABULOUS as soon as I land the NEXT account or post the next blog or blah, blah, blah.

Okay, so now for the truth:¬† my life is AMAZING every time I pause and reflect on the goodness of God.¬† Seriously.¬† My life is amazing when I linger in the place and space of gratitude for food, shelter, family & friends who love me; meaningful work and fruitful ministry and…. I could go on and on listing the myriad ways that I am blessed.

If by any chance, I’m not the only one who struggles with the recurring madness of this myth, and if per chance you wrestle with it too, please help yourself to reading about two other myths that conspire to keep you from enjoying your amazing life by¬†CLICKING HERE¬†for a completely FREE download (no email required).

Also, please share your thoughts (& myths) with me!  Wishing you the very best for a life that is myth-free and truly amazing!

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Your AMAZING Life 2017 ~ A Checklist

I wanted to start this year off¬†by giving a Gift to those I know; those who are clients; and those who, like me, simply want to get more practical¬†info on ‘how to’ have an AMAZING Life!¬† With that goal in mind I created “Your AMAZING Life 2017 ~ A Checklist.”

I hope you’ll opt-in and immediately enjoy the opportunity to think about your life across three dimensions: Your beliefs, your abilities and your dreams!¬† I’m praying that you’ll be both honest and kind as you think about just how unique you are.

If this resource makes you re-think your limitations then you are invited to join me for upcoming resources, tips and support!¬† An AMAZING Life is possible.¬† Give yourself permission to redesign your life & make it… amazing.

           CLICK HERE to get your FREE Checklist!

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3 Secrets to Success for a Happy New NOW!

If you’ve ever wondered why success seems so “elusive” and so “way up there in the future” let me assure you that success is MUCH closer than you’d imagine! After helping several of my Life Coaching clients attain major¬†personal goals in 2016 (and after reaching quite a few of my own) I discovered recurrent themes showing up over and over and over.¬† Here’s what I¬†found to be three secrets to success…

#1    DO SOMETHING EVERYDAY TOWARD YOUR GOALS  Рsuccess is tied to consistency.  Everyday you must make a conscious decision to take an intentional and strategic action that advances you toward your goal!  It might be as simple as making your bed before you leave home so that you can return to a peaceful space at the end of the day or it might be calling a busy CEO until you connect with one who will agree to mentor you. Do something every single day and watch the efforts pay off.

#2   IMAGINE YOURSELF ALREADY SUCCESSFUL Рuse your imagination to enact what your success will look like once it manifests.  See yourself giving the successful speech at the major conference; envision yourself unlocking the door of your new office suite; imagine yourself presenting the scholarship check to a deserving youth.  Prepare for success by becoming comfortable with it in your mind.

#3¬†¬† PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS – respect what you say you want by attending to the details related to getting it.¬† When you meet someone new who is a relevant contact, take a few minutes within the next day or so to drop that person a thank you note.¬† Train your mind to listen attentively when others are speaking and to bring up details important to them when it’s time to do business with each other.¬† They’ll be impressed that you heard what they said. Go the extra mile when communicating by paying attention to details such as a person’s title, interests or preferred method of contact.¬† Details can differentiate you from others and positively cause you to be remembered.

Yes, it is a new year but more importantly… it’s a New NOW.¬† Enjoy each moment!

~ Dr. Sheryl L.W. Barnes¬†¬† /¬† “Your Life…only Amazing!”



It’s good to see another Harvest!

november¬†I am genuinely excited to welcome the month of November.¬† Even though 2016 seemed as if it zoomed by, the truth is, its been a great year of learning, meeting new people and navigating several new challenges.¬† But… what I’m most excited about is “gathering in the harvest”¬†from seeds sown earlier in the year and the month of November makes me think of harvest.

What kind of harvest am I expecting?¬†Since harvest always reflect seeds sown, the question is: what have I been sowing?¬† This year I made up my mind to be more intentional with making efforts to stretch socially and to go outside my comfort zone in exploring business opportunities.¬†I sowed seeds of networking and following up after meeting really interesting people.¬† Some reciprocated but many did not. I’m grateful for the new relationships that have blossomed from those who did.¬† Continue reading

Could Changing Your Life REALLY Be that Simple?

hotair balloonWhile serving on a panel of women leaders recently it came time for the moderator to open up the panel discussion to questions from the audience. A young woman asked me specifically “how” does someone get to the place where they really believe that they will succeed. I’m paraphrasing her question but her point was “it’s great that you all are successful, confident women who have achieved much, but HOW did you change your mindset and remain consistent over time?” It was one of the last questions asked and I am SO grateful she addressed it to me! What I told her was that ‘how’ I have been able to persevere in spite of setbacks, disappointments, fear, ‘other people’s opinions of me & negative assumptions about my abilities’ is simple… I have made it a daily¬†PRACTICE to do the following things:
(1) I go to Chapel everyday. Chapel happens to be a chair in my living room where I sit down and journal what I’m grateful for from the last 24 hours of my life.
(2) Also, while in Chapel, I spend time in prayer and Bible study. Key word here is “study.” I’ll spend days or weeks on a single verse to try to understand what it means for MY life!¬† I spend time in conversation with God.¬† I ask for wisdom; I ask for forgiveness and strength and I listen to His counsel.
(3) I SPEAK over my life… every… single… day! I declare and decree that I am healed; that my family members are blessed; that my corporation, ministry and marriage are favored.¬† I say ‘grace’ over my clients: “Lord, thank you for the clients I am about to receive!” I open my mouth and speak success over my professional and personal life.

Has it changed my life? Oh Lord YES!!! I feel grateful on a consistent basis and I feel hopeful that I am living with, on and in¬†purpose. I find it easier to forgive others and MYSELF; easier to extend grace to others (and myself).¬† I am much more mindful of the gift of each day.¬† Success is not way up ahead… it’s in small efforts made each day.

Is it really that SIMPLE to change your life and your outlook? Yes. Begin by respecting the power of consistency. Every day say kind things about yourself to yourself. Every day pause to give thanks. Every day read and think about a spiritual truth. It IS that simple and YOU can do it.

Blessings!  ~ Dr. Sheryl L.W. Barnes

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